Saturday, July 19, 2014

Redecorating by inches

It began when I decided that since Her Ladyship's illness meant that she spent a large part of every day in bed, we should upgrade her to a new, bigger, mattress, and give her twin bed to WB.  This would require a bit of work, because the girls' room was quite cluttered ("Cozy," countered Her Ladyship), but once done, they'd both be better off.

Her Ladyship liked the idea of a bigger bed, but was so overwhelmed by the effort it took to get through the day that she could not bring herself to do the work required to make the change.  There was no real rush -- I'd put money down to hold her new mattress, but the store would wait up to six months to schedule delivery.  I suggested that she take a few weeks, do the clean out in small bursts as her strength permitted.  I offered to do all of the heavy lifting ... she could direct the clean-out from her bed.  "Sure," she said.  "I'll let you know when I'm ready."

Long story short:  she was never ready.  Once a week or so I would mention the bed, she would stall politely, and, aware of how on the edge she felt (and feeling a bit overwhelmed myself), I didn't press.

We were at stalemate.

Three weeks after graduation she was able to discontinue the medication that was affecting her so badly, and started to regain some signs of life.  Encouraged, I brought up the bed again.  Again she stalled.  School was over, she was clearly feeling much better ... I decided that the time was right to force her hand.

I went to the store, and scheduled delivery for five days hence.

The big day arrived.  The bed was scheduled to arrive in late afternoon.  The girls and I played Tetris with their furniture and made space in the room.  Now that it was finally happening, Her Ladyship was excited about her new bed.  The delivery truck arrived, the guys got the mattress upstairs lickety-split ...

and the box spring was unable to make it past the first landing.

"No problem," the lead delivery man assured me.  "You just need a low profile box spring.  The bed will be four inches shorter, but it'll make it up the stairs no problem."

So I ordered a low profile box spring, and was told it could be delivered in three days.  In the meantime, Her Ladyship's new mattress could just rest on the floor.

Side drama: I found a metal bed that I thought would suit the room, but the catalog didn't seem to offer a headboard-only option, even though they showed the bed without a footboard in several pictures throughout their pages.  I called the company, on the off chance that I could order the bed that way, even though it wasn't listed in the catalog or online.  No dice.  I went back to the website to double-check the measurements (maybe the footboard wouldn't make the room look too small, or maybe I could buy the complete bed and just not use the footboard) and found a link to the assembly instructions, on which the bed was referred to by the name that the manufacturer uses for it.  WELL.  A quick search online enabled me to buy the headboard plus a standard frame for less than half the price of the bed I'd originally been considering.  With free shipping.

The frame arrived the day before the new box spring was to arrive.  The headboard wouldn't get to us for a week or so, but no problem.  The day of the delivery, we got the mattress moved and the frame set up.  The delivery guys arrived on time, brought the low profile box spring into the house ...

and it was unable to make it past the first landing.

The only option left was to get a platform bed instead of the metal one I had my heart set on, or a split box frame, that would cost another $100 and void the warranty on the mattress.  Since I have never had need to redeem a warranty on a mattress, nor heard of anyone else who has had to do so, I decided to go for the split box spring.

No problem, I was told.  It will be there in three days.

We leaned the frame against the girls' closet, put the mattress back on the floor, and  waited.  The big day came, the men arrived with the split box spring (a low-profile version, though I had been under the impression that they were delivering one that was a normal height, but NO MATTER.  We were getting this DONE), carried it up the stairs with ease (HALLELUJAH!!), put the first down the first section, then the second ...

and it didn't fit.  Seems they'd delivered a queen sized box spring instead of the full we needed.

Side drama: the headboard arrived the day before the box spring.  I tried to assemble it before the delivery, but it appeared to be missing the feet described in the instructions, because the holes in the legs weren't lining up with the frame.  While we were waiting for the box spring, I called and arranged for a replacement, which would arrive in 7-10 days.  We would need the box from the new headboard to return the old one, so pick up was scheduled for end of the next week.

Fourth time was a charm.  The delivery guy came (six hours early!) and toted those full-sized regular profile split box springs up the stairs in less than 10 minutes.  Five days later the new headboard arrived and the old one went back (there were snafus, of course, because that was the way this project was going, but this post is already long enough).  There was a bit more kerfuffling as the scope of the project grew (new bed became new curtains, linens and pillows, an additional book case, several bags donated to Goodwill, and new wall stickers over WB's bed), but today it finally all came together.

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worth the wait

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WB's big-girl bed

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(You will note that I am only showing you two corners of the room.  This is because the clutter in the room has not yet been thoroughly busted, it had to go somewhere, and no one needs to see that.)

It has been a long time since I've had a carefully-planned project turn into such a comedy of errors, but now that it's (almost) said and done, I couldn't be happier with the result.  The proof, though, was in the brief exchange I had with Her Ladyship last week.  We were in the kitchen, working on our own things, not looking at each other, when out of the blue she said, "My new bed is really comfortable.  Good call, mom."

That's as close as I'm going to get to "you were right".

I'll take it.

Monday, June 09, 2014

Commencement

It is fair to say that Her Ladyship has not enjoyed her senior year one little bit.  Two trips to the emergency room, multiple illnesses requiring antibiotics, and a severe adverse reaction to medication have made it a very hard slog, indeed.  More than once she had to take a step back to rest and regroup.  Unfortunately, every time she tentatively regained her balance, along would come another wave to knock her down.  Getting through the year has taken a tremendous physical and emotional toll.

B and I have spent the year pushing, protecting, and advocating.  There were times we feared that despite everyone's best efforts (and that includes her counselors and teachers, the school has been fantastic to work with through all of this), Her Ladyship would not be able to graduate with her class.

It came right down to the wire ... but she did it.

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Begging your indulgence--I have to say that again, with feeling.

SHE DID IT!!!

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love her bright smile

Congratulations, sweetheart! You're tougher than you realize, and we are so very proud of you.

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Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Randomicity

It's been a busy three weeks.

First: WB got glasses.

The evening after we got the news she marched into and around my bedroom shouting, "I will not wear glasses!" into a megaphone I hadn't even remembered we had (her sister brought it home from high school freshman orientation in 2010. God only knows where it's been in the interim).  She was still feeling oppositional when we went glasses shopping the next day.  We had no luck at optical shop #1 ("I like my face better without glasses on it," she grouched), but the owner of the second shop took one look at my girl and brought out a pair of magenta specs with bling dancing along the earpieces.

SOLD.

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Next, Eldest arrived home from his sophomore year of college around 11P on a Friday night, and left for his summer job in Chicago before dinner time the next day.  ("What?!?" said WB when she realized that he isn't going to be living at home this summer.  "He's not supposed to do that!")  He had just a few hours to round out his working-in-an-office uniform, run some errands, and spend a bit of time with his family before time to leave for the airport.  We are going to miss having him home, but will see him when we make our annual trip to the Midwest in a few months.

Young'un went on a camping trip with his class.  One of the items on the packing list was a pair of hiking boots, which he doesn't own, so I took him shopping ... and discovered that he is now wearing a men's size 9.

(He's also now officially taller than I am.  I realize that I do not set the bar very high, but STILL.)

We're nearing the end of Her Ladyship's high school career, and not a moment too soon.  Her health issues have made this a particularly challenging year, and for a while there we were worried that she would not be able to graduate with her class.  With hard work on her part and understanding and flexibility from the school, however, it looks as though she's going to be able to walk on graduation day, which is a tremendous relief.

Finally, this past weekend WB participated in her very first dance recital.  She's been giving me a hard time about going to class for the last couple of months, which was puzzling, since she loves dancing and has friends in class.  Finally, she mentioned that all the tapping they were doing gives her a headache, and all became clear.  Her class had been chosen to do a tap routine for the recital, so what had been a tolerable amount of tap when her class was 50/50 tap/ballet was now making her uncomfortable.  We tried earplugs ... no dice.  She was ramping up the protests when her teacher saved the day by reminding the class that their recital costumes included a stuffed bear that came complete with matching tutu, which they would get after they danced on recital day.

Which was all the carrot my little mule needed.  She shifted her attitude, enjoyed herself tremendously ....

and earned herself that bear.

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Fingers crossed her class does a ballet routine next year.

Thursday, May 01, 2014

Oh, yeah. He's 12.

A few weeks ago my mother and I were visiting at the kitchen table when yet another squabble erupted between my two youngest children.  Young'un was teasing WB about something or other, she came protesting to me, and I handled it the way I usually do--asked her if she was trying to get her brother in trouble or out of danger, then prompted her to use her I-message and tell Young'un how his words made her feel.

(The "I-message" was Eldest's kindergarten teacher's favored method of dealing with disagreements in her classroom.  We found it to be effective at home, too, and it has become part of our family lexicon.)

My mother took a different approach.

"Young'un!" she chided.  "Are you being sadistic?"

He smiled and cocked his head to one side, confused.

"I don't know what that means," he said.

"It's the opposite of masochistic," I said.

He shook his head.  Still lost.

"You really don't know what those words mean?" my mother asked, who was now beginning to enjoy herself.  "Are you prevaricating?"

The boy started laughing.  "You're just making those words up!" he said.

"We're not," I said.  "And someone as smart as you are should have them in your vocabulary.  I want you to go upstairs, look them up in your dictionary, and then write me some sentences."

"What!" he protested. "Grandma ...."

"Don't expect her to help you," I said.  "Where do you think I learned this trick?"

He let out a good-natured huff, and left the room.  Not five minutes later, he reappeared and handed me a piece of paper, upon which he'd written:

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"Nice try, buddy," I said.  "But you know what I want.  Keep working."

He was gone longer this time, finally emerging to protest that his student dictionary didn't CONTAIN those words.  I helped him find "prevaricate" and "masochistic", gave him an age-appropriate definition of "sadistic" (apparently the editors of his dictionary think the first two are enough for young children to take in), and sent him back to try again.

His second attempt:

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At this point, I was getting annoyed (stop trying to find loopholes and just do what I ask!), while my mother could barely contain her glee.  Back he went for a third run, "And this time," I said sternly, "I want you to make it clear you understand the meaning of the words."

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Such a wisenheimer, this one!

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And we wouldn't have him any other way.

Happy birthday, Young'un!

Love,
Mom



Tuesday, March 25, 2014

18

Balloons and pretty plates from the party store ...

Presents carefully chosen with the birthday girl in mind (WB--who continues to be VERY SPECIFIC when gift shopping--announced that she was going to get her sister a "ball gown, with sparkles".  No ballgowns in our local TJ Maxx, so after a thorough examination of the available options, she chose a floor-length, striped sundress) ...

A dinner of lasagna and Caesar salad ...

Cake, candles, and "Happy Birthday" sung in her honor for the 18th time ...

And this laughing cherub is officially an adult.


It's true, what they say: the days go slow, but the years go fast.

Happy birthday, sweetheart!

Love,
Mom

Friday, March 14, 2014

Be Prepared

I let my guard down, you see.

There was a time, not so long ago, when I never left the house without a sock-in-progress in my purse. With the kids getting older I've been spending less time hanging out while they're in their activities, and more importantly, we've been enjoying a run of relative good health, which means less time spent in doctor's offices and waiting rooms. Not long ago, I was finishing a pair or more every month, but these socks, cast on in September 2013, weren't finished until last month.


I thought about starting a new pair right away, but never quite got around to it. These days, if I find myself with time on my hands, it is just as easy to pass the time by hopping on my phone to check email or Facebook.  I planned to start a new pair, I just felt there was no hurry to do so.

Which is why, when Her Ladyship got sick at The Lego Movie two weeks ago—after they stopped the movie, after the ambulance took her to the hospital, after my phone died, after things calmed down and B took the younger two home, leaving Her Ladyship and me to wait for her to be discharged, after I was able to exhale—I stood next to her gurney in the emergency department hallway, my fingers itching, and thought, "Man, I need a sock." 

I cast on as soon as we got home, and had things well underway before her first follow-up appointment. Within a week, I was about to round the heel of sock #2.


These socks did not go smoothly—first I got all the way to the heel before realizing that I had an extra stitch on the needle (yes, I could have just knit two together and continued on, but I would have known that there was an extra stitch in there, and this was not a week in which that was an acceptable way forward), then, not five rows after I finished the heel on sock #2, I found a knot in the yarn. Determined that these socks would not be the boss of me, and that they WOULD be done in time for Eldest (the recipient)  to take them back with him when his break ended, I cut the knot and kept going. The finished socks don't match, which is vexing (I like for SOME things to be within my control), but Eldest doesn't mind, and I am trying to think of it as an exercise in letting go.


The last few weeks have been chock full of tests, appointments and meetings, so Eldest's socks were off my needles before Her Ladyship's final test, an MRI scheduled for this past Sunday. I was pretty ticked off when I found the knot that kept me from making my boy a pair of socks that match (he doesn't CARE, Ruth, let.it.go), so when I found it, I vented my spleen a bit on Facebook, complaining that "if I'd wanted the socks to be all devil-may-care fraternal, I would have used Trekking." 

I try to learn from my mistakes.  When it was time to cast on Waiting Room Socks 2014 v.2, I decided to hedge my bets and use the first skein of Trekking I came upon in the stash.


Naturally, this particular colorway (which I'm not really liking, as it's too peachy/brown/orange for my taste) (I knew this when I saw it and bought it anyway, I have no right to take this as personally as I am) turns out to have a very clear repeat.

Life is nothing if not predictable in its unpredictability. 

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Her Ladyship is doing much better.  She is going to be followed closely for the foreseeable future, but the tests ordered by doctors have all come back normal. To say that this is a relief would be a massive understatement.

Saturday, March 08, 2014

Cleaning crew

Despite multiple requests to pick up her toys, WB's "laboratory" (the area behind the sofa where she plays/her toys are stored) has become a horrible mess.  This morning our acquisitive little girl was told that we would not be buying her anything new until the laboratory was clean, and she had a bag of toys she no longer wants to play with ready for donation.

She spent the next several hours trying to whine and weasel her way out of this, only to fun full tilt into a united and unmovable parental front .... which is when she came up with what she thought was the perfect solution.

"Hey, I have an idea," she said.  "Maybe Young'un could SURPRISE me, and clean up my laboratory for me, and then we could all go shopping!"

This did not go over quite as well as she'd hoped it would.

What I DID do, though, was--after warning him not to do all of the work himself--pay Young'un $10 to help her sort and organize her toys ("She made the mess, she can certainly pick it up," I said.  "I've heard something like that from you before," he replied), which is what they're doing as I type.

Young'un takes a "pull it all out and then put it back" approach to cleaning.
I'm staying in the front of the house until they're done.